My husband turns 40 today, and popular culture would have us believe that it’s the start of a downhill slope. I’m so happy that the sewing community is full of role models who prove that this is utter crap!
For years my sewing friends have been telling me, “You will love your 40s! It’s the decade of not caring what people think of you!” On the flip side, just yesterday my coworkers were talking about the horror of milestone birthdays, and how they dread them.
So, in honour of birthdays and getter better year by year, here are a few of the sewing friends over 40 who inspire me!
1. We have to start with SewOver50, right? It’s never been so cool to 50+! I appreciate their inspiration, representation, and fascinating discussions so much.
2. My Sewcialists co-leaders, Becky and Chloe. Two years ago I didn’t know them, now I talk to them daily and they know more about my inner life than almost anyone else! They are only a few years older than me, but both are well beyond me in strength, resolution, and resilience. I’m far more worried than them about what people think of me, and I’m more likely to change course because I’m flustered. May I be as awesome as them in a few more years! (OK, might take me longer.)
3. The person who knows even more about me than Chloe and Becky? It’s Kristin. Not only does she leave comments on every Sewcialist post and every one of my blog post ramblings here, at times we email almost daily. She is wise and informed, and always has the right way to frame things so that I see them in a new way. She is also funny, fabulous, stylish AF, and the first person I ever heard talk about perimenopause and what to expect. I’m honoured to be friends with her in real life as well as online!
4. My original online sewing gang, founders of Sewcialists back in 2013: Leila, Katie, Heather and Elizabeth! When I move into a sewing commune for retirement, it will be with these ladies. (You are all invited too!)
5. There are so many other sewists who inspire me and happen to be over 40! I really appreciate that online, age doesn’t matter. In the work world, these ladies would all be my boss, and I’d be so polite we would never get to know each other. Thanks for being awesome, Carolyn, Kate, Lara, and Mac! (There are so many more I could add <3)
I’m smiling just writing this post! What an amazing community we have online!
Of course, I’ve got amazing older role models in real life too. My mom is celebrating 70 in February with a charity walk (click here to donate!). She does 10k plus hikes year-round every Wednesday with a group of retired friends, and also goes to climate change protests every Friday. My Dad is 70 in August, and right now he is planning an 3 week hike through southern England in May, which you can read about in his own lovely words. My aunts, uncles, cousins and in-laws are all remarkable in their own ways too.
Has being part of the sewing world changed how you view aging too? Does seeing folks of all shapes and sizes looking great at all ages help you feel like life just gets better? I’d love to hear your thoughts below, and perhaps also some shoutouts to people you admire!