Look, this isn’t a dis on anyone… and we’ve all got terms we love/hate/ignore. For example, I know there are people turned off by the word “sewcialists”, and I get that… but I use it because it fulfills it’s purpose and aptly describes our online sewing community!
The idea of “selfish sewing” though… it just really gets under my skin! Like I shouldn’t sew for myself most of the time, or like I need permission to do it at a certain time? Uh, no. I can spend my free time however I want – watching tv, sleeping, or sewing, and I don’t have to justify that to myself or anyone!
Look at the definition:
Now of course, that’s not how people mean it. I get the sense somehow that it came out of blogs where mothers were sewing for their kids all the time, and wanted justification to spend that precious time on themselves. (Am I imagining that? Where do you think the phrase originated? Someone on Twitter suggested it might have originated form the Selfish Seamstress blog, which would make sense and puts a different spin on the word!)
The thing is though, the vast majority of the 500 sewing blogs that I read are people who sew for others sometimes, and for themselves mostly. (One exception might be Mercury Handmade, who is the most generous sewing mama for her gorgeous daughters!) I don’t think that the idea of designated “selfish sewing” makes sense when it’s the core of what we do! We sew what we want, when we want. We take joy in sewing for other sometimes, but it’s not the expectation always.
Instead, how about:
(True fact: My blog was very nearly named “Crafting for Sanity” ’cause, well, it’s more fun than therapy!)
What do you think? Does “selfish sewing” work for you, or rub you the wrong way? I”ll be disappointed if we don’t have some disagreement on this… I hope we all feel free to say our thoughts and not feel judged! As I say to my class often, “Can you convince me?”